The early morning jog seemed colder than normal and I felt chilled to the bone, so I stayed in the hot shower a bit longer than usual. I had almost exhausted the hot water supply when I finally turned off the taps. Through the curtains my husband handed me a towel. As I wrapped the fresh white towel around my shivering shoulders, deep warmth wrapped itself all around my thawing frame. My husband had warmed the towel in the dryer! I cannot describe how magical it felt. The warmth of the towel seeped into my skin as my husband’s thoughtfulness saturated my soul. I felt loved. What a gift! It was a simple act of kindness that warmed my body and heart.
Now… before you start thinking that this kind of romance naturally occurs within the Born household, can I set the record straight? This wasn’t my hubby’s own idea. Nope. He didn’t come up with this on his own. He got it from a book. But… who cares?? As I enshrouded my body with that warm towel, I didn’t give a hoot where the idea came from. I was relishing in his implementation of the idea. That was the gift.
Have you got a Christmas gift for your spouse yet? According to the guy on the radio, if you don’t have your gifts by now… it’s too late. But I don’t believe him. Come on, they’ve been playing Christmas music for months already. The pressure tactics of consumerism are little over the top.
For Christmas this year, my husband and I are giving each other the gift of attending a marriage conference together. Now, marriage conferences aren’t cheap, so we’ll be saving up for it. But I’m thinking it’ll be more like an investment. One of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is the desire to learn new ways of saying “I love you” – whether the ideas come from a book, a marriage seminar or from your own creativity. No matter what stage a marriage is at (and we’ve been through ebbs and flows of our own) there is always hope for a deeper and more meaningful relationship.
So with the warm towel in mind, think about giving a gift that will change your relationship. Find out new ways to say I love you. Pick up a marriage book. Plan to attend a marriage seminar. Go for coffee with a friend and share some ideas. Choosing to learn new ways to love your spouse is a life-changing gift. Now that’s a real gift.